Flirting in Public with a Secret Remote

He had to make a good impression on strangers while the person he came with controlled his Edge from across the room.

The idea started with a simple question: how could we make a date a little more exciting, unpredictable and memorable? We wanted something that involved trust, a bit of mischief, and the thrill of not knowing exactly what was coming next. That's when the idea of combining speed dating with my Lovense Edge came about.

The plan was simple in theory. I would attend a speed-dating event, meet new women, make conversation and see whether there were any genuine connections. The catch? My partner would have control of my Edge, using the app to surprise me while I tried to get to know the women sitting across from me.

We talked about the idea beforehand, including what we were both comfortable with and how we would handle things in a public setting. The excitement was in the anticipation: knowing she had control, but not knowing when she might use it. I had to prepare for two completely different challenges. First, there was the usual speed-dating preparation. What to wear, how to introduce myself, and how to avoid asking the same boring questions everyone else asks.

Second, there was the small matter of trying to keep a straight face when my partner decided to remind me who was really in charge. Once the event began, I settled into the rhythm of meeting different women. Names, introductions, hobbies, awkward first questions and the usual attempts to make a good impression. Then came the added complication. While I was concentrating on a conversation, my partner could remotely control my Edge. Suddenly, keeping eye contact and listening attentively became a much more demanding exercise in self-control.

Imagine asking someone about her favourite travel destination while trying not to let your face betray the fact that your partner is having far too much fun with the controls. The best part was the contrast between what everyone else could see and what I knew was happening. To the other women, I was just another guy on a speed date. Meanwhile, I had a secret that made every conversation considerably more unpredictable.

What made the experience exciting wasn't just the toy itself. It was the anticipation, the element of surprise and the fact that she had control while I had to carry on as though nothing unusual was happening. There was something particularly playful about handing over that control voluntarily. It created a private connection between us, even while I was in a room full of strangers. The challenge was to stay composed, keep the conversation natural and resist giving away too much. Every new date brought another opportunity for me to wonder whether she would behave herself, or decide that my composure needed testing.

The whole situation was almost comical, because speed dating already requires you to think quickly. You're trying to remember names, come up with interesting questions, work out whether there's chemistry and make a good impression, all within a limited amount of time. Adding a mischievous partner with remote control made the whole thing feel like an entirely different competition. My biggest challenge wasn't finding something interesting to say. It was making sure my face didn't tell a completely different story from the one coming out of my mouth.

The best part was the combination of trust, anticipation and humour. It took an ordinary social activity and turned it into an experience we'd remember long after the event ended. The main challenge was balancing the private joke between us with the fact that other people were there to enjoy the event too. Anyone trying something similar should make sure the experience doesn't interfere with other people's comfort or consent. Keeping the activity discreet, agreeing on boundaries beforehand and having a simple way to pause or stop are all important.

Afterwards, we could finally relax, compare notes and laugh about the experience. What had been a test of composure during the event became a shared story afterwards. It was a reminder that intimacy doesn't always have to involve an elaborate romantic dinner or a weekend away. Sometimes, it's about trying something unexpected together, trusting each other and creating a memory that makes you both laugh whenever you think about it.

My advice for anyone considering it: start with a conversation about boundaries, agree on a discreet stop signal, and make sure the setting is appropriate. Test the technology beforehand, keep the controls simple, and don't make the experience dependent on pushing things further than either person is comfortable with. Most importantly, remember that the goal is to have fun together. Not to create pressure or make anyone else at the event uncomfortable. And if you think you're good at keeping a straight face, try speed dating when your partner has the remote. You might discover that flirting is easy, but maintaining your composure is a completely different skill. 😂😈