One of the biggest challenges we faced in our long distance relationship was his self doubt, especially since this is his first relationship. In the beginning he would sometimes want to end things because he felt unworthy of me and would tell me that I deserved better. It was difficult to hear, but instead of letting those fears push us apart, we worked through them with patience and communication. I reassured him that what I value most is his love, care, and effort. Over time he has grown more confident in us, and I have learned how important consistency, understanding, and encouragement are in a long distance relationship.

 

The first time we used our toys remotely was in September 2024, and I remember feeling a rush of excitement leading up to it. I was not sure what to expect, but I could not wait to try it with him. From the very beginning I loved how naturally he took control. We laughed a little while figuring things out, but once we settled in the excitement completely took over. It felt fun, adventurous, and intense all at once and gave us a new way to feel close despite the distance.

 

Using the toys has changed our dynamic in a way that surprised me. I love that he has control. It makes me feel safe, desired, and completely immersed in the moment. His confidence and dominance turn our time together into something exciting and intense, and it brings a feeling of connection I really enjoy.

 

One of my favorite memories was a late night when we were on a video call and he surprised me by taking control out of nowhere. I had no idea he was planning anything. I could not stop laughing and gasping at the same time. It was thrilling, exciting, and a little chaotic in the best way. Even though we were miles apart, it felt like he was right there with me. We still laugh about that night whenever we want to relive that rush.

 

My advice for other long distance couples is to be open and communicate clearly about what you enjoy and want to try. Do not be afraid to experiment because it can help you feel close even when you are far apart. I wish I had known sooner how much trust and communication would enhance everything. Once we were comfortable sharing desires and guiding each other, it all became more intimate and exciting. Being patient with each other and embracing the playful side makes all the difference. 

Their connection deepened not by erasing distance, but by learning to trust despite it. What started as uncertainty became confidence. What began with self doubt grew into a bond built on presence, reassurance, and shared exploration.

Anonymous（25–34, Cisgender Female）
💞 Long-distance relationship: more than 6 months
🎮 Using: Ferri, Lush 3, Lush 2, Domi
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