For years, intimacy in their relationship was gentle and limited. Her partner’s past made anything sexual feel frightening, and she never pushed, choosing love and patience over pressure. When her partner finally said she was ready to try something new, it felt like a quiet turning point in a relationship built on trust.

Because of my partner’s traumatic past with anything sexual, it was hard for me to adjust to a relationship with nothing beyond non sexual intimacy. Even though we live far apart, I still wanted to share as much closeness as we could. But I chose to respect her and never pushed. I accepted that this was our relationship, and I did so with love.

 

Then one day she surprised me by bringing up Lovense and saying she was willing to try things together this way. Since then we have been slowly enjoying our toys, and I couldn’t be happier that she feels comfortable enough to explore something that once terrified her. We are still taking things slow, but watching her grow into a more confident and beautiful person means everything to me.

 

The first time we used the toys, we didn’t really know what we were doing. I let her play around with the controls, and I would message her about what felt good or not. For the first hour it was mostly lighthearted fun about how cool it was that the toys worked from such a distance.

 

Before Lovense, we never talked about sex seriously. When it came up, it was usually jokes or laughs, but secretly I felt like intimacy would never be something we could explore together. Lovense helped bring us both out of our shells. We started talking more openly about our desires and pleasures, and I feel like it built a deeper foundation of trust and bonding.

 

One of the funniest memories is when my toy kept dying because I forgot to charge it. It turned on and off over and over, and we ended up cheering for it instead of focusing on anything sexy. We just laughed the whole time.

 

My advice is simple. If you want to feel closer and you have been together for a long time, Lovense is an amazing idea. I only wish I had known about it sooner, because we went through more than five years with almost no sexual intimacy before we found it.